HOW DO YOU DEFINE FAILURE?

As any successful person will honestly admit, failure happens, and we've all had our fair share of it. Judging by  experience,  it seems that FAILURE tends   to be more public than success,  especially among teenagers.

 The word "FAILURE" has several definitions and therefore mean  different things  to different people. What I perceive to be failure may not be what my other neighbour perceives to be  failure.
As we all know,  "FAILURE" in its literal meaning is  the state or condition of not meeting a desirable or intended objective or an act of proving  unsuccessful.

But as for me, I have refused to agree with the above definition of failure. To me I think and believe that   failure is an opportunity to a new experience, another chance to  discover a much better and realistic  way of achieving my dreams, an opportunity to become more focused and committed  to making my dreams come true and most importantly, another opportunity to become a better person.

So how do YOU define failure? In your own words what does it  mean to fail? And how do you handle failure?

Do you think you've  failed because you tried   a million times but to no avail? Or have  sort  for help from several people but was turned down? Or because you've ventured into several businesses but none seemed  successful?
 Some people live and learn, and some only live. While failure can involve those negative thoughts and emotions, it can also make us stronger and wiser.

I know this may sound  too good to be true ... But do you believe that there are people who don't even for a second think they have failed even when situations hit them so hard and rub it in their face that they are a total mess?
Yes! Such  people exist,  and am one of them.
I remember few years ago, when I underwent severe trauma, it was like the end of the world . Everything around me was a total mess, yet, i refused to believe  that something had gone wrong  because I had always thought of myself in positive ways.

The power of the mind cannot be over emphasized.  Your mind is the most  powerful instrument you have. Therefore,  You are whom you think you are!
Most times, 75% of the things that happen  to us  are a result of our imaginations - imaginations that begun several years ago. What  you think of yourself  matters a lot! So be careful of your thoughts... It could be the reason you are not a success.

After much research and thinking, I came to discover that there are several reasons we fail, but the main  reason for  failure comes from an inner feeling of lack of self confidence - that is to say, we have little or no trust in our ability to succeed in specific situations. That feeling you get when you think that others are better than you. Always feeling you need  to lean on someone because you have concluded within you that you can't do it on your own and that if you do, you may not succeed.  WHO SAID YOU CAN'T DO IT? OR THAT YOU WONT SUCCEED? YOU CAN DO IT AND YOU CAN SUCCEED IF ONLY YOU WANT TO. REMEMBER ITS ALL ABOUT WHAT YOU THINK!

On some days, things don't go as planned. You either fall, fail or stumble. Sometimes when things aren't working as planned we feel  like the whole world has come to an end and we get so upset that we never even want to try again; but be sure of one thing - If you have never failed, then I don't think you can succeed.
      THE MAN WHO IS NEVER ANNOYED AT THE PLAN THAT FELL THROUGH, BUT TRIES TO DISCOVER AN OPPORTUNITY IN THAT LOSS, THAT MAN WILL BE GREAT!

Ken Robinson said - IF YOU'RE NOT PREPARED TO BE WRONG, YOU'LL NEVER COME UP WITH SOMETHING ORIGINAL.

Often times, we try to avoid failing and even fret it. The truth is - whether we like it or not, failure is a necessary stepping stone to our dreams. So the more you try to avoid failing,   the more you plan to fail. And the more you fear to fail, the more your dreams become impossible!
   Mind you, living cautiously doesn't and wouldn't  make you successful. In fact it leads  to greater doom! Embrace failure and always  be ready to accept whatever doesn't work because that's just the bitter idea behind success.

FAILURE IS SIMPLY AN OPPORTUNITY TO BEGIN AGAIN, THIS TIME MORE INTELLIGENTLY.    Henry ford

 Maybe you've made mistakes you think has destroyed your future and shattered your dreams but let me tell you something interesting today... You haven't made a mistake. The only mistake you've made is the one from  which you learnt nothing. It is that one that can shatter your dreams.
At some point in life, I came to discover that "the past" is another great reason for  failure.  Seriously,  a little thought about a miserable  past can take you to an early grave. So its much better to close the door on the past, although  It may be difficult to forget the mistakes but don't dwell on it. Don't let it take your time!
     
 The one truth you can't avoid Is the fact  that the road to success is hard. Its never easy nor smooth. Its always tough! Nevertheless, it is those hard and tough times that make up your success story. You never can tell...that your story when told some day, can  become someone else's turning  point in life.

The most important thing i have learned  is that failure is a part of a life well lived but how you look at and handle these negative situations can have a huge impact on your  life.
So always be happy  for those things that didn't work out because it gives you  another opportunity to learn a new way of doing the same thing you already did and greater chances  of making it work.
Finally, always have it at the back of your mind that  there is no such word as "impossible".  It only occurs in your mind. Take a step outside your mind and you'll see that everything is possible.