MEN'S PHYSICAL ABUSE ON WIFE /GIRLFRIEND

The alarming rate at which women are bruised in marriage and relationship is really becoming outrageous and uncalled for.
Why has marriage and relationship lost its value in the society? Where did that value creep to? Who made it unvalued? Off course it's you and I!

Most times it appears that people do not even understand that marriage is a sacred vow with God. It's not just a relationship between a man and his wife, but a relationship with God too.
    On the day you stood on that Altar you made a promise to God your creator with the Minister of God representing Him in human form. You made promises to God on that day.... So whatever you do in your marriage,its God you do it to.

Funny enough,most of the things you bruise them for are the things you've also done to them in one way or the other.
Yes! -----you caught her cheating...now let me ask you.. If your conscience should judge you rightly, do you not also cheat on her? Or is it because she hasn't found out? Or because you  do yours in a slimy way?

Have you imagined a man hitting your sister right before you? No matter what she might have done.. Would you allow him bruise her?
So why do it to someone else's sister and daughter?
Come to think of it this way... That your the one she is bruising that way, how would you feel?

I realise that most times,battering is caused by a man's selfish desire and insecurity. Most men who bruise women were usually raised in a home of domestic violence or  either  grew up with an uncle who hits his wife.

To the men in question, you think you love your wife /girlfriend so much and that's why you hit her right?
And to the women being bruised,you think he loves you more than anyone else on planet earth and at some point you begin to even blame yourself,thinking it's all your fault and that your the cause of the bruises . But No! Your not!  It's just who your husband/boyfriend is!

Hitting  a woman is a sign of false and deceptive love.  You truly do not love her!  If you do, you would adore her precious body. If you really feel something deep and true for her,you wouldn't raise a finger at her because you won't be able to stand her tears or abusive her verbally...calling her names and comparing her to an Ex or other existing girlfriends; telling her to her face that they are better than her or that you want her to be like them.  

LOVE SAYS"YOU MUST APPRECIATE YOUR PARTNER THE WAY SHE IS" That is the root of a sincere love!

To the men in question,you think it all ends in apologizing; probably going on your knees or even crying begging for forgiveness and promising never to hit her again... No!  It doesn't end there! There are lot more to it.
       What about the internal abuse?The demoralizing and demeaning? Do you realise how long it takes to forget all that and act like it never happened?
I even doubt if the thought of such bruising and pounding ever leaves her memory because whenever you indulge in a slight misunderstanding,  she is tensed for the fear of you hitting her again and for the next few days or weeks or months, she will be emotionally unstable and that affects you too ----resulting in an emotional breakdown of intimacy between the both of you.

So it just  continues that way whenever there is a fight or quarrel and at some point you begin to get fed up of each other,and probably begin to want someone else you think is better than your wife or girlfriend.

However, she could be the perfect one for you; your missing rib, your better half! But your inability to control your anger and emotions would end up destroying a solid and loving marriage/relationship....and then end up living in regret for the rest of your life.

If  only you knew that emotional abuse leaves the deepest scars, you would wish you were never a part of domestic violence.
And if only you understand the gravity of the wrong your doing, am very sure you would call yourself to order .

Do you realise  that if that woman your hitting says a negative word to you at that point of  so much tears and a heavy heart... You may not survive it..no matter what the reason for hitting her was.

Off course the bruises heal, but on the inside you strip away her pride;her self worth! Her self respect!

MEN PLEASE STOP HITTING WOMEN!!!

STOP GIVING THEM MARKS AND BRUISES THAT NEVER  HEAL!
  

STOP MAKING THEM REGRET KNOWING YOU OR BEING WITH YOU!

STOP MAKING LIFE A LIVING HELL FOR THEM!

It's never too late to change. You can still make amends and become the best husband and father to your wife and children.
You can still be the best boyfriend to your girlfriend.

THIS IS HOW YOU NEED TO TRULY CHANGE:
 
First, accept the fact that you really want to stop domestic violence.

Secondly,  tell yourself that you really went too far in your actions; blame yourself for not being able to control your emotions as a man.

Thirdly,  tell yourself that you've deeply offended your wife and children or your girlfriend...let your conscience prick you...let it flog you bitterly.

Fourthly, get committed with God. Make amends with your God... Be in good relationship with Him.
Now listen!  This doesn't mean going to church every Sunday or attending every church activity from Monday -- Friday...No! No! No!
I mean constantly studying the word of God(the Bible). Be committed to reading the Word such that you understand every verse and believe in what it says...because that is the only way you can truly know God.

For it is only a man who fears the Lord that respects and values his wife!

Lastly, make a daily prayer point to change your ways.
Every day you kneel down to pray always say"God, I am very sorry for what I've done in the past and now I have chosen to be a changed person, So help me God!"
     
I promise  that you'll see how brand new you'll become in a few time.... To be a better husband and father to your wife and children