THE HIDDEN TRUTH BEHIND ROMANCE

I sat all day in the shade trying to figure out what the most beautiful creature is. At first  I was confused, but after much thinking, I came to discover that it's women. Women make the world colourful. But it's very unfortunate that most women don't even realize how beautiful they are neither do they see the hidden power in them.

You know in those days it was believed that women belong to the kitchen. They were seen as core house wives. The only duty they performed as wife and mother was to clean the house, wash the plates, take the children to school, cook food and sometimes chip in little  ideas to her husband on family matters.

Like I always say ... We now live in an advanced  world where gender equality is no more a taboo.

The life of marriage back then is not the same as today. The way your husband addressed you in those days when you were jobless and always sitting at home is far different from the way he would address you now.

A woman shouldn't be a liability to her husband but a supporter. Off course it's his duty to provide for the family as well as your duty to support him, especially financially --- being fully aware of the so
much expenses that awaits your home.


Don't hope on your hubby to take care of you as well as your family, especially when your coming from an average or poor home where you have younger ones that still needs to be cared for, including your parents.

 Don't get it twisted! I am not saying the man shouldn't take charge of his responsibilities.  Of course he should buy your mum/siblings  some little stuffs from time to time but it shouldn't be like a  slave job imposed on him, rather It should be something he willingly accepts to do at his own time.    

So for this reason, you shouldn't just sit at home everyday watching telemundo or zee world, cook, bath - wear a sexy short nikar,  makeup and then wait  for  your "darling husband" the "Sacrificial lamb" to bring you money for your up keep and the rest. 

It is uncalled for to be lazy as a woman. 

In fact there are things you shouldn't even ask your husband for - like... Money for undies, makeups, clothing, hair do... Etc. 

Do something. Get busy!  No matter how little...just be sure your hands are busy with something. Don't let anyone make you feel inferior and don't limit yourself to what you think you can do. Just know that you can achieve whatever you set out your mind to do. It's all about determination and focus. 

Sometimes we hear stories like.... A certain man's business collapsed few years ago and up to now he has  not been able to stand to his feet. That's because his wife was just busy visiting friends day in day out and sleeping from couch to foam.  Now come to think of it... If his wife was working or trading as at then,would he fall? Off course No! And even if he falls, he will certainly rise in no time because he hasn't fallen completely.

What your hubby thinks of you determines to a large extent the way you'll be addressed. If he sees you as a lazy woman who can't fend for herself without him, he will definitely treat you that way. But if he sees you as a woman who can fend for herself without minding his wallet, he will respect and honor you. 

 Don't give any man the impression that you're just one dumb-ass who has no vision and focus for life. Rather, make him see you as a gallant woman to whom he can entrust  his properties ---- knowing you'll manage it even far better than himself. 

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Again, don't take part in hunting for a rich man to marry or date. But be a woman of substance who does her things herself -- an independent woman. So that when a man comes,  he will realize it's not the money you need but his love, loyalty, commitment, care and fidelity. In fact It would open up your eyes in making a  choice for a life partner .

Don't be in a rush to jump into your husband's house with just a certificate - a thick colourful paper  per say. Be patient and plan yourself properly. Be sure you're fully prepared mentally. Have something doing...maybe a skill or a good job that earns you something monthly. 

The bitter truth we don't want to hear is-- marriage without the wherewithal to sustain it can be extremely difficult and tiresome.

After your 1st and probably 2nd issue, you will realise that there is more to sustaining a marriage/relationship  than just romance.  A real woman avoids drama. 

Always work hard to be the best you can be and don't let anybody do for you what you can do for yourself; because if you do, you'll  owe him a favor and you wouldn't want to owe anyone.